Since retraining and becoming a full time software developer, I have noticed changes both in myself and in those around me.
One of the things I love the most about being a developer, other than it being a sweet spot where art and engineering regularly cross paths, is that there is a little victory in some form or other, almost every day. Every day, something exists by the evening that didn’t exist in the morning. And I love that.
But one of the negative things I’ve noticed is my ability to connect with those around me – who are not in tech – has dwindled. Like my wife.
When my wife asks the seemingly innocuous question, “How was work today?” she is not equipped for, or for that matter expecting, a long explanation finely detailing why a function won’t work. She doesn’t deal well with abstract concepts. And software is very abstract.
What makes it worse is when I’m working on a very niche project, like, right now, SEO software, which will form a big part of the Smart & Slick back end when we begin offering SEO services hopefully in the near future.
This not only requires an understanding of software development but also a deep understanding of what SEO is and how it works. So naturally, the distance between me and her… (and everybody else) gets even bigger.
And when somebody, perhaps to be polite, says I should try and explain it, they are not prepared for the ensuing 30 minute lecture that begins by explaining, in crude terms, how a search engine works.
I have now taken to simply referring to it as ‘nerdy stuff’. Which, in essence, is another way of saying that we just don’t talk about it. Because we can’t. And in some ways that’s a problem because coding is currently a pretty big part of my life.
I’m interested to know how others connect with their friends and family about work?